Have you ever seen how an artist makes a clay doll from mud? With the gentle touch and the warmth of the naked hand, artists make those dolls. Every doll looks the same as the others. But if we look closely they are all different at some point.
Kids are like those clay dolls. The way you try to shape them they will be. That’s why I would like to call parents an Artist. And parenting is the art of parents. Being an artist is a fascinating thing but at the very beginning, it feels overwhelming.
Schools play an impactful role for a child. If you are reading this article, let me assume that your kid is a preschooler. When you are having busy days with your career, their education, personal growth everything is on your shoulder too. According to a study,
“Frequent corporal punishment on the child of 3-5 years increases the risk of higher levels of child aggression“. Another research says, ” kids become antisocial because of excessive screen time.”
These stats indicate a little careless action can change everything. Whatever decision you’re taking for your family or career, it must be tactical. This article is all about how you can balance your work life and parenthood both. Keeping in mind your busy schedule, I have listed 10 tips that can help you.
10 Ways To Manage Your Preschoolers
Parents get nervous and confused as there are a lot of ways to raise a child. But there is no right way or fixed rules to raise your kid. It depends on how you want them to raise, and with which qualities they should grow up. Describing 10 ways that you might find useful for your family.
1. Schedule Everything
From waking up in the morning to going to bed at night everything should come under schedule.
With meetings, deadlines you can schedule Cooking, Playtime, meals break, sleep routines, and most importantly study time. If everyone in the family can maintain the time frame strictly, this will help your kid to be disciplined. Besides that, Preschoolers need to follow a routine so that they can easily cope with the strict rules of the school.
But no one has time and patience to customize schedules for every single day! In that case, apps can help. There are a lot of apps for making personal schedules, time management, reminders. But how to find the best app that actually works for parents?
Find out- Top 8 Time Management Apps for Busy Parents.
2. Divide Responsibilities
In this patriarchal society, Mothers manage the house, and kids and fathers manage every sort of financial issue and official works. These workloads are clearly impractical for a person, and can easily frustrate someone. Frustration leads to misunderstanding and conflicts. Equal shared parenting avoids this kind of situation. Where you can divide workloads with your partner. For example-
- Divide cooking responsibility. Suppose the mother will make lunch and give the father time to work and the father will make dinner so that the mother gets rest or finishes another work or vice versa.
- Divide schooling subjects. This will help you to make a bond with your children. So, They can get both parent’s time and guidance.
- Similarly, you can divide laundry, shopping, bathing kids, dusting, etc. This will not make you feel bored doing the same thing.
- Try to eat with your children. And let your preschooler eat with their own hand. This will minimize your effort behind feeding them. Also, this will reduce dependency on you.
3. House Chores They Should do
The way Language learning is important for a person, learning basic house chores is equally important for a person to grow. Often we mix up work with gender. That a boy should know specific work, and girls should know other specific work. That’s how parenting turns into discrimination.
Everyone should learn basic household chores while growing up. In modern parenting styles, parents invite their children to help in house chores, This will make them feel valued and a part of the family. Working parents have zero time to teach their child teamwork, responsibility, or other good behaviors. When you are working with your kid, sharing your own story, these are bringing them closer to you. They can understand your situation easily, and help you actively.
- Let them make their bed, does not matter if it’s not perfect.
- While dusting, washing clothes, take them into your team.
- Let them clean their doll’s house, or the mess they made after playing.
In this way, they will get your attention, and be busy with something. One more thing, physical work will make them tired easily. Kids’ bodies will demand rest or food after a funny but tiring work.
4. Cooking Is An Exciting Game
Kids love games and attention. They love to repeat the work their parents do. They try to wear parents’ big size shoes, use mom’s lipstick, or often act fake cooking. It’s not going to be a harmful decision for your kid if you take him/her with you in the kitchen. Yes, you can’t let them go near to the fire of course! But I have safe games ideas-
Game 1: Combine pulses, and peas together in a bowl. And give them another bowl to separate peas from pulses. This upgrades patience and analytical views of your kid.
Game 2: If you are making dough for cake or bread, give them some of the dough to make bread out of it. Encourage them for every art piece they make with that dough.
After all, they are helping you to make the art of parenting!
Preschoolers’ parents know how whining they can be when it comes to the most important part of the day “study time”. Preschooler children tend to be impatient and inattentive. Before dealing with the parents should think like them. As I said earlier, kids always say “yes” when it comes to playing fun games. So, you should teach them everyday lessons as these are games. Again sharing a few games ideas-
Game 1: When you are working with a laptop or a desktop you can give them counting tasks. They need to count all of the books you have in your personal library. If the answer is correct they will get promoted into level 2 of the game. You can replace books with any other countable things. This way parents need to give extra time for studying.
Game 2: While they are playing in the backyard. Make a cup of tea and sit. Ask them to draw alphabets for you. Also, they can tell you the colors of the leaves or sky if you ask.
6.Limit Screen Time
Yes, I understand parents have thousands of work to do. To finish them without hassle, parents often give their kid gadgets so they remain occupied. You know this is wrong, but you have no other choices at all! 5 points above explained how you can entertain your kid without gadgets.
But the art of parenting is making attachment with your kid as much as possible. Surely, you don’t want to control their lives but your active involvement is essential. As an adult, parents also need to limit their screen times. For impactful family time, you can watch those movies on Netflix that are friendly for your kids.
Still, Kids gonna touch your phone anyway. Some parents face an awkward situation while their child sends a weird text to some of their bosses, or uploads something inappropriate. To control your children’s phone uses you can turn on the parental control on your phone.
7. Encourage Creative Work
To make your child ready for school encourage them in creative work. Spends money on clay dough, Coloring books, Story Books for a preschooler, jigsaw puzzle, etc. Drawing, solving puzzles, or making clay toys requires a long time, patience, and brainstorming. In fact, in schools, there will be tasks on clay toys, drawing, and story reading. If they start playing from now, school tasks will become easier for them.
From a survey, In every 200 people of the USA, 74% of pet owners reported mental health improvements from pet ownership.87% of pet owners are more likely to recommend a pet to a friend or family member.
A pet can be a dog, cat, or anything. This is a natural way to release stress. When a kid owns a pet, empathy grows in his mind and he starts to take care of the pet. It is important for a human to keep attachment with other animals to be kind and grounded.
9. Explain it without saying “NO”
Kids of 4-5 years learn from parents and surroundings. Every time they listen to a “NO” without explanation from you they lose connection. If they can’t rely on you, how will they trust others?
This is the art of parenting, where a kid should feel safe, warm, and valued with you. Your approaches, behaviors, and personality directly affect them. Here are some other ways you can try without saying “NO”.
- Tell them the exact fact why you don’t want them to do a particular action.
- Without using harsh words politely give them the bad news.
- Tell them why their approach is wrong, also let them know the correct way.
- To grow awareness, tell them about the consequences.
10. Self-care is key
When a person becomes a parent, their focus goes straight to their children. They forget everything and insanely care about what will be better for the kid. Take a moment and think about yourself. No, this is not a selfish thing to care about yourself.
At the end of the day, you are a human too. Humans have emotions, rages, bad days, mood swings and the list goes on. If you broke your hand, will you try to pull your kid with that hand? You will go for treatment. Because your partner and kids’ well being depends on your fitness too. Similarly, your mental health is also vital. Here, Addressing some tips on how you can find a few time for you,
- Try 10-15min physical exercise in the morning, you can encourage your kid.
- With good music, you can take a long shower.
- Try to call and talk with your friends or parents at-least a few minutes.
- Read a book for about 30 min before going to sleep
- Try to sleep early so that you can wake up in the morning timely.
- Social media is unrealistic, spend time in this real world.
- Spend on yourself to cherish parenthood.
The art of parenting in a nutshell,
Parenthood is a kind of roller coaster journey. Every sort of emotional element is there to treat you. It depends on you how you want to enjoy it! Did you follow any rule book when you hopped on any roller coasters? But surely you asked people who have already experienced it, and everyone experienced it in a different way!
Similarly, the art of parenting is all about raising your kid in your own customized way. 10 tips mentioned above are just 10 points where you should emphasize more. If you like this article and want to read more about parenting, please comment below.